Cognitive Skills

Most individuals have the physical abilities to achieve success, however a lot do not possess the necessary emotional or cognitive skills. When a person's self esteem is increased their emotional IQ or EQ and readiness to make life changes increases as well.

Cognitive Restructuring has the ability to help people suffering from the following issues: * Phobias * Childhood abuse * Anxiety * Lack of goals * Criminal values * Loneliness * Lack of ambition * Broken relationships * Despair * Lack of hope * Procrastination * Fear * Illness * Decision making * Worry * Self betrayal * Depression * Coping * Hate/vengeance * Stress * Rejection * Self control *Anger * Self esteem * Divorce * Lack of empathy * Suicidal thoughts * Grieving * Co dependency * Drug addiction * Peer pressure * Failing grades *Alcohol addiction * Eating disorders

The first and most important step to overcoming these problems and the highest hurdle to self improvement is self deception. Those who live in the box of self-deception constantly blame other people for their many problems. Humans don't realize the most difficult problem they have in life is the battle with themselves. If you're not happy or successful Are you the one to blame? Below are six steps that are a necessary for self-improvement. There are no shortcuts and they must be done in order. The most effective tool to help people leave the old damaging behaviors is Manualized Cognitive Restructuring . Cognitive restructuring has the ability to help individuals overcome thinking errors and behaviors.

One of the main psychological dissimilarities between humans and animals is that humans have the ability to be self aware. That is to say, they know how to step back from themselves, see and accept their faults and weaknesses. With self awareness humans have the ability to become better and change their lives. Improving habits, values, attitudes and behavior is not easy. For example, if you desire to change a hardened criminal into a law abiding citizen the change must come from within the criminal. Criminals must admit that they are responsible for their actions. If they continue to live in denial they will never improve. To be successful with criminals, you must first make them self-aware. This process is called reality therapy. You can't compel criminals to change, however, you can compel them to become self-aware. Observe these steps to make a complete change. You can't take any shortcuts.

Step #1- AWARENESS Self-awareness is the initial step in becoming a better person. It is necessary that you accept your shortcomings. You cannot change without becoming self-aware.

Step #2- DESIRE If you do not want to improve, you will not ever do it. You have free will and cannot be compelled. It is completely up to you; it is your choice. No desire=no change.

Step #3- ATTITUDE If you're aware of your shortcomings and desire to become better you'll subconciously lift your attitude. It's your choice.

Step #4- SKILL Self-awareness, desire and a good attitude are not quite enough; developing the skills and knowledge of how to change is also imperative.

Step #5- BEHAVIOR Master steps 1-4 and you will be ready physically to do what is required. Follow them for ninety days and it'll become a habit. Follow them for a year and they will become a part of you.

Step #6- SUBCONCIOUS When you get a habit into your subconscious, it becomes automatic. You do not even have to think about it; you've changed. Congratulations!

If you keep on doing what you have been doing, you will keep on getting what you have been getting. If you desire to change the outcome, you have to change what you've been doing. The very first step in changing bad habits is to defeat denial, bad scripting and faulty thinking... This can only be accomplished by the above six-steps to change.

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