Cognitive Restructuring Truisms

These are cognitive restructuring thoughts used in manualized cognitive lifeskills workbooks to help people change faulty thinking and self-destructive behaviors.

If you keep on doing what you have been doing; you will keep on getting what you have gotten in the past.

Life is short and fragile. The average healthy person lives only around 800 to 900 months or about 600,000 hours. Birth and death aren't the important parts, but what you do in between.

Much of the way we act today was scripted while we were children. Scripting, whether good or bad, continues to be handed down from one generation to another. Some relations who are now dead are still having a great influence over personal lives.

Victims have a choice about their own children and others. They can be blockers and forgive the wrong done to them, they can choose to stay neutral and pass on what happened to them or they can choose to be magnify the problem and make everything worse. They have the ability to overcome their past and rewrite the future for themselves and their children. They may choose to influence their posterity in a negative or positive way. It's their choice.

If a person is seen acting in a negative or self destructive way, lift his/her lid and look underneath to see a person who is hurting. And, under that will be found usually a worthwhile person.

One can discern right from wrong by what it produces. There is no true happiness in doing wrong. One may decide to do wrong, but one cannot determine the consequences that those actions will bring.

Six basic emotional needs are required for people to have happy lives. People who do not have their needs met typically become emotionally damaged or handicapped. However, they have the ability triumph over their emotional handicaps by forgiving others and continuing on with their life. Life moves forward when the past is set free.

Life isn't fair. Sometimes bad things happen to good people.

Anger is a secondary emotion caused by primary emotions caused by one or more of the four basic sources. Those who anger us control us.

In marriage, the thing that matters most are the people in the marriage. When a couple wants to enhance their marriage, then they have to change themselves.

Good communication requires to seek to understand and then to be understood.

When you decide to do what is wrong, you allow other people and the circumstances around you to have power over your life.

Doing that which is wrong will ensure that your life won't get better. Offenders will suffer the consequences of their bad decisions.

Many people with terrible beginnings have terrible endings. Their past will equal their future unless they make the choice to make a permanent change.

Who we are is what we do. What we do is who we are. We can�t hide who we are because eventually we will be discovered by what we do. Our long-term behavior is a direct indication of our values and who we are.

You can tell right from wrong by what it produces. Good people mostly produce good actions, bad people mostly bad actions. A person can�t be good and bad at the same time. They are one or the other.

Emotionally damaged people are better people than they believe they are. They believe lies others have told them about themselves and they have been programmed into believing the untruth about themselves. If they do not become self-aware and have a desire to change they will keep on getting what they have been getting.

"We cannot break the laws, we can only break ourselves against them." (Cecil B. DeMille) Some of these laws are love, affirmation, understanding, gratitude and security. To the degree these are missing in our lives, we become damaged people.

Life isn�t always fair. Bad things happened to good people. It isn�t life that causes our problems, but our reactions to it. Mistakes can be forgiven, emotional scars can be healed. Life isn�t over until it is over. Each new day brings an opportunity for change.

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