Children bombard parents with many challenging behaviours. We are delighted if their behaviour is mostly positive. But what if your child constantly demonstrates negative behaviour? How are you going to deal with it?
I remember when I was growing up, our family did not discuss money. Money was a taboo subject, discussed by the parents and handled by the father.
In the pause between tracks on the Shrek CD, Dad tries to get Jays attention again by simply speaking louder, keeping his tone warm and pleasant. And again, his comment is met with no acknowledgement from his child. Turning on to their street, Dad loses his patience and raises his voice, barking a command that Jay is to march straight to his room and clean up his toys for the fourth time! Jolted to action, Jay rushes out of the car when they return home and heads straight to his room, not emerging until dinner time.
The second thing you should look at is how difficult it is to raise the footrest in your recliner. The footrest controls the reclining mechanism and on occasion can be too tight for your child to raise on their own. To correct this, place a drop or two of oil on the hinge joints. Some hinges are hidden behind a fabric or plastic covering.
How much does your child help at home? If the answer is "not much" then you might want to rethink that choice. Children as young as 2 can be a help and certainly by the age of 4 can take on many simple tasks. There are several reasons why you should enlist your little helpers.
Be Quick With Praise
When you feel good about your child, mention it to him. Parents are often quick to express negative feelings to children but often don't get around to describing positive feelings. A child doesn't know when you are feeling good about him unless you tell him. He needs to hear you tell him that you like having him in the family.
Have A Place For Everything
Take a few hours and organize everything in you childs room. Your main focus is to make sure every single toy, book and piece of clothing has a place. It will be much easier for your child to keep his room clean if he knows exactly where everything goes.
A child may perceive a name change as your decision to detach from him. He might wonder if his mother's love has changed somehow. Someone once said, "there is no right or wrong, but only perception." Post-divorce, our children need to feel connected; otherwise, they feel vulnerable and unsafe. Likewise, I considered that my changing to my maiden name might make my child feel a heightened sense of abandonment.
It is always great to assign some jobs like cleaning one's own room to children. Activities like these develop dignity of labor among children. Activities like planning a week end party and organizing the party themselves are great fun for children. Activities that involve children in decorating the room for the party are also a matter of great fun for children. You can get your child involved in activities like making simple salads and decorating pizzas.
