Changing Your Mindset With Affirmations To Become An Alpha Male

Changing the way you talk to yourself through affirmations I've had a lot of success in changing my attitudes, and much of it has come from saying affirmations. Affirmations are statements that you repeat over and over again until you believe them.

As you go throughout your day, you are constantly making statements to yourself. Often these are bad affirmations, such as: "I'm such a loser." "I'm not good at talking to random women." "I'm depressed." "I'm in a bad mood." "I'm lazy." "I'm stuck in a dead end job and can't do anything about it." "Life sucks."

Ouch! I really can't type any more examples, because it's conjuring up old painful memories of how I used to think! But you get the idea, and perhaps if you took the time, you could come up with a long list of negative beliefs that you hold. The problem with negative thoughts is that they have a reinforcing effect.

The more you think them, the more you back them with feeling, the more they become ingrained in your mind. The more you repeat a statement to yourself, along with visualizing it and feeling it, the more you start to actually believe it.

Too much negative self-talk, and your problems and insecurities pile up. The good news, however, is that you can start making positive affirmations. By repeating new beliefs over and over again to yourself, you can program them into your mind. Take the affirmation, "I am becoming more extroverted."

At first your mind will raise its BS meter and try to block it because it's such a radically new idea. After all, you have spent years and years telling yourself that you're unsociable. Then one day, after a few weeks of doing your affirmations several times a day, you do something that you never would have done a month before-maybe you are waiting to check out at the grocery store and automatically decide to make light banter with the other people in line.

You do it without even thinking, because it's becoming part of your new personality. It's a truly amazing feeling when it happens. So recognize that affirmations work gradually. They're so slow that it's tough to see them having an effect. Just keep ploughing through, keep saying them, and before too long you'll notice yourself behaving in new ways. Affirmations can do three things:

1. Change a belief about yourself, which adjusts your personality accordingly. For example, if you use the affirmation, "I am becoming a positive thinker," it will make you more optimistic. You'll start to have thoughts like "that wasn't so bad" and "let's look on the bright side."

2. Reinforce a belief about yourself. I've always been happy with the way my hair looks. So if I affirm, "I have awesome hair," it helps me become the kind of person with inner confidence who always sees the glass as half full.

3. Motivate yourself. You could use the affirmation, "I talk with women whom I find attractive." Then your mind will focus on ways you can chat up such women. You'll have thoughts such as, "I really need to go to the mall to see if I can find some women" or "I wonder when the next speed dating event is." At the grocery store when you see a pretty woman you'll think of any excuse to talk with her like "Excuse me, do you know which avocados are ripe?"

Affirmations work because you become what you think about. They force your mind into a certain manner of thinking, and when you use the affirmations long enough, those new thoughts become your new reality. You should not just say the words of your affirmations to yourself, but you should feel what the words are saying and visualize the new reality.

That way you experience the affirmation using your three major senses (sight, hearing, and feeling). For example, one of my affirmations I think to myself when I'm walking down the street is, "I enjoy being a completely confident alpha male." When I say it, I feel myself relax my muscles and move more slowly, with my head held high. I visualize my ideal self and become happier. When you're by yourself at home or in your car, say your affirmations out loud.

You fully engage your hearing when you say them out loud. Of course, you should also engage your sight by vividly imagining them, and your feelings, when you have the surge of emotion throughout your body as you imagine your affirmations to be true. When you first start programming yourself for a new trait, phrase the affirmation in the present progressive verb tense.

By this I mean instead of saying, "I feel happy with my life," it's better to say, "I am feeling happier with my life as time goes on." This overcomes a lot of the resistance that you may put up to your new affirmation. Though you say, "I feel happy with my life," you think, "No I am not a happy person." Using the present progressive tense overcomes that.

Once you feel as if you are much happier than you used to be, then you can switch toward affirming it is true: "I feel completely happy." As you keep saying your affirmation, your personality will reflect it ever increasingly until it has been virtually fully ingrained in the new you. From time to time, you'll need to review and repeat your old affirmations. This prevents you from sliding back into your old mindsets.

Affirmations are sort of like weightlifting for your mind. Just as you need to keep pumping iron to keep the physique that you want, so too do you need to maintain your new thoughts to keep your ideal personality. When you develop your affirmations, use the technique that works the best for you. Some people are more auditory-oriented, so they benefit from recording their affirmations and then playing them back in a continuous loop.

If you're on a Windows PC, the best way to do this is create your own audio files on your computer using a microphone and the Sound Recorder program that comes pre-installed on most Windows systems. Others tend to be more visually oriented and should visualize their affirmations as they say them to themselves.

I am kinesthetically oriented (motivated primarily by physical sensations), so people like me should try to feel their affirmations as if they were true. Even though you may have your main way to do affirmations, try to hit all your senses. An additional method that helps everybody is to write affirmations down on paper. When you do the first few sentences, your mind will be full of doubt, but as you move down the paper, it's almost miraculous how much your mind will change to adopt the new belief you're affirming.

Easy Alpha Male Exercise - It's time to make your own affirmations. As you formulate them, here are some rules that will help you:

1) Affirm traits, beliefs and realistic accomplishments that you want to motivate yourself to have. (If you affirm "I have 10,000 girlfriends," then you set yourself up for disappointment, since that's physically impossible. Five or ten is better.)

2) Make your affirmations as strong as possible. "I am completely confident" is better than "I am confident."

3) Try to phrase each affirmation in no more than a dozen or so words.

4) The mind responds better if you make positive statements. "I feel totally relaxed in social situations" is preferable to "I don't feel nervous in social situations."

5) When you want to GIVE UP a trait, use the phrase "release the need," e.g., "I release the need to feel threatened by other guys."