The fundamental reason you can get your ex back is your prior relationship. No matter how difficult it may have been at times or how terrbily it ended, you can build upon the foundation of your prior relationship to reconcile and create an even stronger connection this time around.
Although you may be afraid of your ex seeing another person else or even falling in love while you're apart, the fact is, you've got what in sports is known as the "Home Advantage." (For those people not familiar, this refers to the edge a team is supposed to have when they play in their home arena.)
What do I mean?
Allow me ask you: who's by far the most threatening person to any relationship? Or should I ask, who outside the relationship, considering that the people inside of the relationship are normally the #1 danger to it!?
I'll tell you who--and everybody knows this is true from their own practical experience: the person they are most envious of and would not want their partner to be around is that person's ex.
Now, what does that tell you?
Here are the reasons why that's true, and why these reasons are now to your profit:
- Habit. Because what is easier to pick up again but old habits? You are like an familiar habit. You are comfortable, you are a known entity. At one point being romantic with you was the most normal and easy thing for your ex to do. You're a shoe-in. You have the Home Advantage.
- Familiarity & Comfort. Your Partner already knows you. This means he or she is immediately more comfortable around you. He or she doesn't have to put on airs, try too hard to impress, always pick up the check or always be seen with makeup on, etc.. And neither do you.
- Nostalgia. The power of the memories of good times or warm feelings, of the romance you once had can't be underestimated. In fact the secret of your accomplishment lies in reviving those good memories in both yourself and your ex.
- Buried Love. Your ex doesn't have to fall in love for the first time. All the build-up and expectations have passed, and all the obstacles to taking that leap of faith have been crossed. The love you had does not just go away instantaneously just because you broke up, but lingers as a hidden spark. The challenge now is not to create a whole new fire, but merely to rekindle the flames that once were.
- Statistics. Most long-term successful relationships have gone through a separation period. Often this occurs after the "honeymoon phase" when all the excitement, challenge, and mystery of romance has given way to reality of everyday life. In order to survive, the challenge for the couple is to learn how to keep the romance going on a more sober and mature level.
What it all comes down to is that your prior bond gives you a head start above everyone else because of the bond you once had.
So you see that while in some ways reviving your relationship is like starting over, in many significant ways, it's not. While you could have to do a great deal of trust rebuilding, you have a solid foundation on which to build. This should give you hope.
Good luck and talk to you soon!
