Can You Really Read Body Language-or Is It Just Bs?

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Just about every so-called persuasion and influence expert out there has an opinion on how to read body language. They just love to say things like 'if someone is standing with their arms crossed, they're in a defensive position.'

Uh, no. Not really. They might be cold. They might have a bad back. Or they may just like to cross their arms like I do. But if you believe the expert and try to read someone's body language based on generalities, you're going to get in real big trouble.

So, is reading body language BS, especially when it comes to attracting desirable women? No, it's not, but it must be done the right way, and when you read body language, you must realize its limitations. First off, most guys make a huge mental mistake when they try to read body language: they look for body language cues that let them know if a woman likes them or not.

This is a sure way to kill attraction. Why? Because when you adopt this frame of mind, you're unsure if she's attracted to you. You doubt yourself. And women can sense a man's doubt a mile away. You're done before you even start to read body language.
The right mindset is this: you're an attractive man, and of course she's attracted to you. You are, after all, a MAN (a rare thing in this day and age of the wuss), and women are attracted to men. So, you're NOT looking for body language that reveals whether she likes you or not.

Once you have the right mindset, though, paying attention to a woman's entire range of communication (including reading body language) is very useful. One reason is very simple: you're actually listening and paying attention to her, and that act in and of itself is rare.

What are most men doing when they talk to women? Paying attention to the conversation in their own heads, and thinking about the next thing they're going to say to impress her. So, when you actually pay attention to the woman in front of you (including reading body language), it creates attraction because it is so darn different.

But what about reading body language itself? Is that useful? Yes. Yes it is. Here's why: you can use body language as 'guideposts' to let you know if your current behavior is reinforcing the existing attraction, or killing it. It also lets you know when it's time to amp up the attraction, i.e. 'get physical.'

Truthfully, there's not much body language to read. If a woman is laughing AND touching you, that's a good thing. If you touch her, and she touches you back, yep, things are going good. And if you squeeze her hand, and she squeezes back, well, things are about to get exciting.

So, don't get too caught up in reading body language. Proper mindset, paying attention to the woman in front of you (which includes reading body language), and increasing the attraction when you see overt body language indicating attraction (like she grabs your knee and squeezes) will get you further than seeing if the right quadrant of her left cheek is slightly red when she looks up and to the right.

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