Can There Be Magic In Surviving Your Affair?

You know the answers to all these questions. Do you not? And while there is no "magic" to surviving an affair,there can be magic after the affair. However, that's another scenario. But before that has any chance of happening,you need to move foward and leave your present pain and heartache behind.

What I'm going to do to help you in this discourse is to present some essential survival actions. And equally importantly, the mindset that is crucial to acheive the success you want and need. These essentials are not magic - but they are powerful,professional and verified by years of experience. To sum it up in a sentence - They just plain work!

Ridding your mind of "Victim Conciousness",is the first action step you need to take. There's nothing more crippling to your survival efforts than a negative "I'm-helpless-and-the-World's-against-me" attitude. In short,you need to stop being a victim and become a survivor. This means recovering your personal power.

A substantial element in this equation, which will also lead to regaining your self-respect,is subduing the nightmare images of your partner's affair. You'll notice I did'nt say "eliminating." For the obvious reality that they can never be eliminated. However, the good news is that they will only pop up rarely, as time passes and your wounds heal.

To arrive at this state - You will have to do what Oscar Wilde could not. "Resist Temptation." In your case, the temptation to continually project the parade of negative mental images in you "theatre of pain." There will never be hearts and flowers and everyone riding off into the sunset at the end of this full length feature. That's the brutal but essential reality you must grasp. Time to leave that movie house for one with popcorn and a happy ending. Don't you think?


One technique that has been found to be helpful,is to invite the images in at a specific time each day. Then replay the images backwards in your mind. Using this method, you'll find that with each session their power to aggravate you,and,correspondingly,their importance will progressively weaken.

Finally, at a time YOU designate - invite the images to leave. This exercise, though subtle, takes a concrete postive step toward placing you in control. Not them.

Another primemindset in regaining your self-worthand sanity is to stopshouldering the blame for what you didn't do. It wasn't your fault. It was your partner's decision. And as a result of that - you're the one writhing in pain and agony. Why should you feel responsible for that?

Obviously,your spouse is the guilty party. Now is the time for you to come to the aid of YOUR party. Your mental health. Your well being. Your self-respect.Your life. Your Future. It's self-evident, is it not? - if you don't become your own best cheerleader, how in the World can you expect anyone else to cheer you on?

So get started cheering now, by putting into action the techniques and attitudes I've presented here. And you'll find that,as one day tumbles into the next affair survival magic will be pouring forth from your efforts.

I know how painful it can be to get through anagonizing affair. But if you're seriously resolved to surviving and healing, you'll need tobecome familiar with a new method that worksfantastically well.

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