Building Resilience And Success In Children

A high number of succesful adults had traumatic childhoods. What factors led to their success. What was it about these people that enabled them to lead a fulfilling life. First of all lets see what exactly is meant by the term resilience.

The quality that enables some young people to find fulfilment in their lives despite their disadvantaged backgrounds, the problems or adversity they may have undergone or the pressures they may experience. Resilience is about overcoming the odds, coping and recovery. Mike Stein, Research Professor in the Social Work research and Development Unit, University of York.

Key factors for children who are living with their families are as follows. A warm and sustaining relationship with at least one member of their family, a secure attachment to at least one supportive parent or carer. It may be with an Auntie, Uncle or Grandparent or a close family friend.

Positive school experiences, the feeling of being in control and able to plan, being able to take advantage of a turning point - a new opportunity, a fresh start, positive peer influences, can all make a difference to the resilience of the child or young person.

Additional factors are those born with higher intelligence levels with a steady and even temperament, and a clear value or belief system.

Specific cultural beliefs and practices which are shared with others, positive view of their own identity, capacity to reflect and a stimulating, supportive environment with economic security and adequate finances are all additional factors that can affect the outcome of the childs like and the resilience.

At school the following helps. A committed mentor or someone outside the family who offers sustained support, a range of activities that encourage emotional and personal development, and extra-curricular activities that promote increased competencies. Participation in team sports such as football and netball are known to assist.

It is the opportunity to reframe adverse experiences so that positive aspects are seen as well as the negative. It is turning stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

Being able to make a difference, for example in volunteering to help others or in first-aiding
Being exposed to challenging situations that help develop problem-solving skills.

In school life a constant, positive supportive adult in school who nurtures the young person can really help. An understanding of specific cultural beliefs and practices in the childs life, recognising the existing strengths and coping strategies the young person has, and of course listening to and praising the young person can all play a large part of the childs future success.

Fostering an atmosphere where children can actively engage in the learning process whilst encouraging creativity, encouraging tolerance and respect of other peoples ideas, and providing opportunities for positive interaction with peers play an important part.

Maybe, you can be the adult who can make a positive difference to a young persons life.

There are professional counsellors, therapists and bodies available to assist children and young people to overcome the traumas experienced and help make a difference.

However its the day to day contact with responsible adults that will provide invaluable support that can see a child succeed against adversity.

There are training courses available for those that are responsible for supporting children. For example teachers may enrol upon a bespoke tailor made training course which can help children to overcome and deal many problems such as bereavement, loss and other traumatic experiences.