Being turned Down Is Not So Bad After All

Being turned Down Is Not So Bad After All

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This article is in response to a reader who had three dates cancel on her (all in a row). Even after she shared a connection with them and had many great conversations over the phone, her first date with them never happened. She was torn.

My advice to her:

We are not meant to be with everyone we meet. Imagine how distracting it would be if that were the case not to mention we would be all over the place, yet nowhere in particular. And that special bond or connection that two people share wouldnt be the same.

Anyway, I want to share something that may make you feel better. I saw a dating show last night where a guy was paired with three other women to date and choose from. We (the audience) can clearly see that he was a real wholesome kind of guy, young and looking to get married; and the ladies had the same ultimate goal.

All three ladies felt a connection with him they all shared things in common with him. So needless to say, all three got along with him and really liked him. But was he their "type?" Well, that was a different story.

He liked all three ladies, but chose one he was most interested in. At the end, when it was time for all to meet up for another chance to date, all three ladies walked away from the opportunity all three felt that he just wasnt their type.

Imagine his disappointment. All three ladies showed interest in the beginning, but after further thoughts about dating this young man, they decided it was best to walk away. Not because he wasn't cute, kind, cool or smart; it was just that there wasnt a strong enough chemistry and the ladies didnt feel the need to proceed with dating.

For me, the two most important elements in a relationship are mutual respect and attraction. What I find most attractive in a man is when we both share these elements with each other. If anytime these elements are missing, it serves as a signal to me that hes not the right man for me and theres no need to invest in growing the relationship.

In the case of the young man and three ladies, it wasnt so much about mutual respect, but about not having mutual attraction. Regardless, even if one of the two elements is missing, the relationship can be a difficult one to grow.

So in a way, with their decisions, the ladies did this young man a favor. They saved him from any more invested emotions.

Though he may not be their ideal man, it doesnt mean he cant be an ideal man for another woman. After all, he was attractive, smart and had a great personality. The right woman for him will be one with whom he shares mutual attraction (and respect). He would be far happier with a woman like this, dont you think?

About the Author:
From her columns to her blog, Penny continues to capture the hearts of her readers with exhilarating insight and inspiring wisdom. Her blog offers tips, advice and inspiration on life and relationships. Let this site be a place you go to for some insight to inspire healthier, happier relationships in your life. http://www.RelationshipAdviceFromPenny.com



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