Are You Ready To Achieve A Life Worth Living?

Are you ready to achieve a life worth living?

If you were asked if you wanted to achieve a life worth living, you would probably respond, "Of course, I do." Notice that I asked a different question. I asked if you were ready.

Individuals may want many things. However, that does not mean they will be motivated to do what needs to be done to achieve what they want.

So, how can you know if you are ready to do something?

Begin by listening to yourself and the words you use when you are talking about what you want to do. There are six words that give you clues as to how ready you are to take action:

1. Wish

2. Can

3. Want

4. Need

5. Will

6. Should

Let us look at what you can learn about yourself or someone else when each of these words is used.

The word "wish" means there is something you long for or desire. Usually, it also means that you have an underlying belief that there is a high probability that it will not happen. It is what is called a "long-shot." You might say, "I wish I could achieve a life worth living." When you hear this, notice that it seems off in the distance and not likely that it will happen. Maybe you do not have the ability or the resources to make it happen.

The word "can" indicates you believe you have the ability to do what you are thinking about doing. This is a necessary ingredient. It is a word you want to hear. It is like a green light that indicates you want to look for more. You might say, "I can achieve a life worth living." This is clearly stronger than wish. However, do not stop at this point. It is not enough. There are many things people can do that do not happen.

The word "want" is a good word. It can indicate a desire like wishing does. It also tends to be a stronger word than wish. The problem with want is that you can have many of them. It does not tell you if you have the ability or the motivation necessary to accomplish what you want. Notice how you feel, when you say, "I want to achieve a life worth living." Does it match your most important values?

The word "need" is a strong word because it implies something that is required, strongly desired or a necessity. You will be motivated to take action when you hear this word because it usually matches one or more of your top values (what is most important to you in your life.) Notice how you feel, when you say, "I need to achieve a life worth living." If you truly need something, you will feel it when you say it.

The word "will" indicates action. Notice what is different for you when you say, "I will achieve a life worth living." Usually this means you know you have the ability, or you will learn how to accomplish your goal. There is a feeling of confidence underlying the statement and a readiness to take action. The next step is to develop the plan if it is not done already.

The final word is "should." Notice how you feel when you say, "I should achieve a life worth living." Should is one of the most negative words in the English language. It is a demotivator and tends to create guilt. It strongly indicates you do not want to do whatever it is you were thinking about doing. This is a good word to work on eliminating from your vocabulary. You will find you can usually substitute any one of the other words on this list and be emotionally healthier.

As you can see, there is no one correct way to answer the question, "Are you ready to achieve a life worth living?" One of the words can be used alone or several can be combined to make the statement even stronger. Of the six options, you have four that can be used alone - "want," "need," "can," "will." Of these four, "will" is the strongest because it indicates commitment which implies ability.

Practice listening to yourself when you are making a decision. Use this information to help you know how ready you are to say "yes" to something. Listen when others are talking about their plans. You will have a better idea about how important something is to them and how ready they are to take action.

Now, I'll ask the question: Are you ready to achieve a life worth living?


Copyright (c) 2009 Maurine Patten