Are You Persevering Or Enduring?

Why try to make a distinction between perseverance and endurance? In both perseverance and endurance, we may struggle at times, feel fear of failure or rejection, or worry that we are not worthy of what we long for. So the distinction between perseverance and endurance can easily get blurred.

But perseverance and endurance take us down different roads so they are worth distinguishing. Endurance will lead us to a dead end whereas perseverance, although it may take us down a long and meandering path, offers up surprises, serendipity, and synchronicity.

Endurance can be identified by its symptomsanxiety, boredom, self-criticism, addiction, low energy, avoidance, depression, lethargyto name just a few that I discuss in Enough Is Enough! Stop Enduring and Start Living Your Extraordinary Life.

When we habitually wake up in the morning dreading that today will be a repeat of yesterday and the day before and the day before that, we are enduring, not persevering. The bad news is that endurance sneaks up on us. We don't know we're in endurance until we're pretty miserable. The good news is that, once we recognize the sources of our endurance, we can say Enough is enough! and begin leading a more fulfilling life.

We endure because we're fearful, self-judging, or believing a limiting thought. Often, these sources of endurance overlap such that we are experiencing two or even three of them. We may be fearful because of a limiting belief. For example, if I believe that I am not good enough in some way, I may be quite fearful of putting myself in situations that will likely trigger this belief.

The problem with latching onto our fears, self-judgments, and limiting beliefs is that they constrict us. How can I have new experiences that debunk my limiting belief about being unworthy if I avoid situations that have the potential of making me realize I was wrong? Instead, in endurance, I will get to be rightand miserable.

Perseverance isn't necessarily any less challenging than endurance, but it does lead someplace new and different. Instead of being right and miserable, we get to be surprised and excited about life.

So what is perseverance? It is our willingness to commit to our spirit's longings no matter what! No matter what fears, self-judgments, and limiting beliefs pop up to distract us or try to protect us from humiliation. Perseverance is committing no matter what others say the odds against our achieving our goals are. No matter what we have told ourselves about being too old, too young, too uneducated, too busy, or too poor. Perseverance is choosing to pay attention to our spirit rather than to all the chatter that has stopped us from living our extraordinary life.

Perseverance is like buying a car. When we purchase a new vehicle, we suddenly see the same car in greater numbers on the road. This isn't because more people bought the same car on the same day we did, is it? It's because our attention is now focused differently from where it was before. Wherever we focus our attention dictates what we see and experience. If we focus on our fears, self-judgments, and limiting beliefs, it's like putting blinders on. These are all we will see and experience. On the other hand, if we focus on listening and attending to our spirit's callings, we will see and experience extraordinary new people, events, feelings, and thoughts.

As soon as we shift from endurance to perseverance, we allow surprise, serendipity, and synchronicity to help our spirit along. We are now saying yes to the Universe, which expands our peripheral vision and gives us a new view of potentials and possibilities. Perseverance requires three things: a willingness to listen to ourselves, a willingness to be wrong about our prior fears, self-judgments, and limiting beliefs, and the courage to be explorers.

The first two requirements must come from within. The third onecouragewe can allow others to support us in. Find people who listen to their own spirits, who have beaten odds, live joyfully, and find compassion for themselves and those around them. These are your mentors and your heroes and heroines.

Many of us wait to listen to our spirit until tragedy or illness strikes. My wake-up call came in the form of a brain tumor. But we don't need to wait to allow ourselves to be inspired. Let todayyour child's smile, your urge to paint, the sun warming your skin, a desire to help someone in needbe enough.