Are You Large Women Frustrated About Dating?

Are you a fat woman who gets frustrated with the internet dating scene? I sure am. I hear that there are men who really do prefer large woman. I have never met one. Never. Recently, I had several experiences on one of the dating sites and I thought to myself "Why don't you let your hairs down for the sisters and share your online dating experiences to arm the sisters when frauds and fakers come their way?" And here we are!

I'm a good writer. When I find myself attracted to a man, I read his profile carefully and then I write something wonderful that addresses all he's talked about. I know my emails are entertaining and articulate. I'm also intelligent. Can't deny that one. I am a business woman, so I know it isn't a fiscal thing. (Course, my business is not a liquor store!)

But I often get answers back saying "Oh, you'll do just great on this site. I wish you good luck." Or this one is a standard answer: "I'm dating someone and I want to give that a try." Oh really? Then why are you still out here reading emails? Why don't you retire your profile? Grrrrrrrr!

No, ladies, what they are really saying is "You're too fat." And more of what they mean is "I need arm candy because I don't have the courage to be who I am without other guys thinking I'm okay because of the woman who is on my arm and a fat chick just won't make it." I think it is cowardice in one of it's ugliest, most divisive forms.

I once met a man whom I thought was "it." We dated three months when one day he told me "Okay, I've done things your way. Now I want to do things my way. I want you to beat me." My stomach hit the floor in dismay! Needless to say, that killed what I had thought was a flowering relationship.

And then there are the men from Nigeria. Generally, they present themselves as a single man with one child. They are always religious. They get too intimate too fast. They push you into emotionally supporting a challenging situation that needs - you guessed it - your money. Oh, it's only temporary. They'll pay you back as soon as you meet them...which you never will.

When I subscribe to Large Women dating sites, I frequently get emails from men under 40 who say I'm gorgeous or they love me. Honey, I'm 67! I don't want to be your mommy. What they mean is "I am looking for an older, wealthier woman to take care of me. Maybe because you are fat and outside of the norm, you'll not notice my youth and my lack of self-sufficiency." This is a huge turn off for me.

Or do you get lots of dates and find out you're just being used for sex? I want to know what your experiences are. Tell me I'm wet behind the ears and I have rocks in my head. I've heard that before. Or tell me these are your experiences too. Let's figure out a way to solve this. Where do you go socially that works? How do you find the man of your dreams? What tips do you have to sort out the liars?

I'm trying to put into words that there is a lot of deception in the world of internet dating and I think some men target large women because they view us as desperate and vulnerable. I don't want to see you be deceived. You happen to have a body that the world has made unacceptable. Doctors jumped on that bandwagon and made this kind of body unhealthy. It is neither. I have perfect health, tremendous stamina and energy and I know lots of you do too. Hang on to that idea and be very aware of those men who try to trick you on the internet.