Another Case Of Male Abuse Revealed

Another Case Of Male Abuse Revealed

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This category of corporal punishment includes the use of any instrument to inflict pain by whipping, whether by use of an actual whip, a switch, a belt, or another flexible weapon.

Because this form of abuse is no less than torture and thus fully exposes sadism in extreme cases, and because visual tissue injury is visible, these victims are kept away from doctors. Otherwise, the secrecy is fairly easy to maintain, since usually the strokes are delivered to the buttocks and/or legs and are therefore out of view.

The first man I treated for posttraumatic stress disorder arising from child abuse was my most challenging, due to his inability to control his yelling and screaming during therapy. I came close to being evicted from my office building.

While he was tortured all of his life, his recollection of events at about 12 are most vivid. His mother would command him at will, always without provocation, to go outside and select a good switch. The rule was that he would be assaulted all the more if he did not select one that would cause great pain. It had to be long enough and green enough, strong
enough, and flexible enough.

When he returned with the switch, he was made to remove all of his clothing, even his underwear, and stand before his mother totally naked and without moving. She would then whip him until she exhausted herself. She included all parts of the body, and made certain that she hit the genitals well. Only when she was completely unable to deliver another blow, did she stop.

The patient remembers time after time trying to stand still but slipping on his own blood upon the wooden floor. When he would slip, his mother would become even more enraged. After each beating, all of them without notice, the boy would crawl upstairs to treat his own wounds.

One time, while still bleeding from such a session, he ran out the door and all the way to the local police station to beg for rescue. He could get no help, because one of the officers was a sexual partner with the mother.

When this man first came to me at the age of 32, he
was unable to speak during our sessions but only to scream, moan, and roar in rage. He was the most frightening patient I have ever treated. From late teens until a few years ago, he was repeatedly placed in one psychiatric hospital after another, in addition to jail.

He had become addicted to both drugs and alcohol, and remained an addict for years. Never in all of his psychiatric history was he correctly diagnosed but only assigned one false label after another, including sociopath, schizophrenic, manic depressive, and others. His true diagnosis from the beginning should have been complex posttraumtic stress disorder, a condition very common to physical abuse, in my experience.

After a long period of treatment, which began with daily, one-to-one sessions, and later progressed to male group therapy, this man has made a remarkable recovery. He is working full-time, living independently, and forming friendships.

As a member of a very warm and supportive church, he has been working diligently on forgiving his mother. He traveled several hundred miles to see her when she was near death, and then he went back again to attend her funeral.

About the Author:
Dr. Heyward Ewart, III, is a retired psychologist and active priest with 25 years of commitment to victims of abuse and other violence, both males and females. He has spoken widely on these issues and has served as an expert witness in several states. He is a diplomate of the American College of Forensic Examiners and a former member of the White House Conference on Families. His book, AM I BAD? Recovering from Abuse," is available by upload at http://www.child-to-adult-victim.com.



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