Anger: 5 Easy Ways To Control It-from Cary, Crystal Lake And Huntley

Some people explode at the slightest provocation, causing others to avoid them. Do you have an explosive personality?

If so, you will be delighted to know that you can effectively control your anger by practicing the following 5 easy to follow methods. By practicing them you will gradually reduce your angry episodes and become the person people want to be with again.

1. Share your feelings with someone you know and respect

Talk things out with a close friend, perhaps someone who has known you for years - or even with a relative or family member. Often the simple act of disclosing your feelings helps to provide much needed perspective and diffuses any agitation; your listener just has to serve the role of a good sounding board.

2. Write about your feelings in a notebook or diary

If talking to someone is not for you, write freely about the reasons for your feelings without editing anything. Just write continually in a stream of consciousness style for 5 to 30 minutes, or so.

This free association-like process frees your subconscious to reveal feelings you may have repressed; in fact you may be surprised at some of the things that are suddenly revealed to your consciousness. Remember, you are not required to show anyone else what you have freely written so feel free to openly vent your anger or other feelings in your writing.

3. Participate in a physical work-out or exercise program

Anything from a brisk walk to working out in a gym releases endorphins, mood-enhancing substances in our body that can help you feel better. Running, using a homemade punching bag, playing volleyball, all can increase your endorphin production.

4. Practice deep slow breathing

Most of us do not breath with awareness or mindfulness. However, remember when your mom told you to calm down and take a deep breath?

She knew slow deep breathing can reduce agitation and anger. Make it a habit to periodically breathe in slowly and deeply.

Calm down and quietly hold your breath for one or two seconds. Next, exhale slowly and completely.

This is an easy exercise to perform almost anywhere because you are breathing all the time anyway. Try doing this several times during the day and notice how calm and at ease you will begin to feel.

5. Do relaxation exercises regularly and frequently

There are several ways to achieve this. For example, you might attend a local yoga class. Or listen to a relaxation or meditation tape regularly.

Set aside some physical space exclusively to calm yourself. It could be part of your home or bedroom, a bench in a park or a lounge chair on the patio.

The specifics are not important. What is important, however, is to consciously set aside a regular and consistent time to calm yourself and relax.

You can effectively control your anger by practicing these 5 easy to follow methods. By practicing them you will gradually reduce your angry episodes and become the person people want to be with again.