Adages To Survive Adultery

Many sayings have been around for years, but they have remained true throughout changes in culture and society. They are as applicable today as they were the first time they were spoken or written. There are six old adages that especially apply to surviving infidelity in your relationship.

Can't see the forest for the trees. Let's begin with this one because it's what we experience when we discover the infidelity. We put blinders on and that's all we can see - WHAT was done to hurt us, not when or who or where or most importantly why, just what. We have to look at the big picture and look at what surrounds the situation, not just the event itself.

Experience is the best teacher. Once you can see the forest of your marriage again and not just the tree of infidelity, use this situation to grow. It's easy to sit on the porch swing before you get married and play the "what if" game, but until it actually happens, there's no way to know what feelings, what emotions, what passion will erupt from inside you. Resolve that this is the one and only time this will happen in your marriage and put it behind you as a "life experience" and move on.

A penny for your contemplations. The key to every great relationship according to almost everyone is communication. Communication is typically difficult but even more so when you have to tell the person you love something that will bring them pain. If you try to hold it in or keep it to yourself, you will only explode with it later. Think out how you want to say what needs to be said and then find a quiet moment to share your thoughts with your partner.

It's not you, it's me. Here's a cliche that does NOT belong on the list of how to survive infidelity. It's mentioned here to make sure you DON'T use it. Because it will come up. It always does. It's not just one or the other - it's both. Even if you are the one cheated on, your behavior may need some tweaking. Although it's easy to do and a natural feeling, don't necessarily put all the blame on the guilty party. Share the experience, share the guilt and share the rewards of the future.

It may not be easy even if it's simple. A wedding is simple. All you have to do is get a license, find someone to perform the ceremony, and move in together. The marriage that follows is not easy though. You become a part of a full-time commitment to another human being that will require hours of work each day. The ability to communicate, learn when to fight and when to step back, forgive your partner will all play crucial roles in your marriage succeeding.

All wounds are healed by time. This is the most applicable adage to infidelity. You may think you will never survive the hurt and pain you feel, but you can move past it to sunny days. Work through it with your partner and forgive each other for past errors if you want to make your marriage work. The infidelity will fade into the blur of the past as you walk together into a new future.

These cliches pertain to more than just surviving infidelity. They are the secrets to a happy marriage. Infidelity is an issue that probably goes back as far as the caveman (who has the biggest club ??) Hope this helps. Hope these show some insight to how to survive infidelity.