A Psychic Discusses Fear Of Falling In Love

Do you have a fear of falling in love? If your answer is yes, you are not alone. There are a whole lot of people who share your fears. I have a very regular, very long term client who has this fear. For the record I love her greatly and she has given her permission for me to talk about this issue. Her hope is that her story helps you. She says she wants a long term, monogamous, committed relationship. She has this very long punch list of what she wants in a relationship and from a partner. She also has this very long list of what she is willing to do, and be responsible for, in a relationship. On the outside, she looks like she's doing all the right things. She is not.

The Law of Attraction tells us that what we think about and feel about the most is what we get. Period. I asked my friend what she thinks about and feels about the most. I asked her to keep a journal so she could chart it for herself. She realized that her basic, bottom line belief about love is that it works for other people, but it has never really existed in her life. She has this huge fear of falling in love. She felt she was talking about this really far-reaching concept that doesn't actually apply to her or her life. She knows love is possible. She thinks with hard work and effort, she can bring the love to her. She's DOING all the right things after all. The fatal flaw is that her belief system is not in alignment with her actions. So no matter what action she takes, it will not work. She has to work on the belief system. The belief system is based on what she learned and saw a child. She saw a lot of infidelity, lying and sadness in the romantic relationships around her. By the time she was 7 years old, her belief system about love was that it was painful. Somewhere in her little mind, she decided she didn't really want that. As she grew older, and started dating, she brought men into her life who were like the men around her as she was growing up. It was what she knew and what she was comfortable with having around her. Remember, dysfunction is comfortable for those who have grown up in it. She created one destructive relationship after the other. It just helped build that fear of falling in love that she already had been feeling and growing over the years that love causes pain. She realizes now that her fear of falling in love is what was causing the delay in finding Mr. Right. She realizes fully that she has to work on her fears and issues first. Then she can recreate her list of what she wants in the perfect partner and relationship for her.

Take a good long look at your past. Look at where you formed the beliefs that you have now. Ask for clarity from your Higher Power and you will receive it. You cannot make a car engine turn over and run properly unless everything inside the engine is working properly. If you have a fear of falling in love, then you will not fall in love. It really is as plain as that. Find the fear. Fix the fear. Fall in love. That is the new prescription for your fear of falling in love.