A Great Attitude Is A Female Attraction Magnet

A Great Attitude Is A Female Attraction Magnet

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The word attitude conjures up some pretty negative images. How often have we heard people tell us in our lives not to give them attitude? To be honest, half the time I really had no idea what they were talking about. All I was doing was being honest about what I thought or how I felt. Why that ended up with a slap and a precautionary warning against keeping my attitude I couldn't have explained.

I just knew that I was being true to what I thought was my reality and I got slapped around for it. We all have had these experiences and we have to wonder what it was that teachers, parents, and other adults were trying to rid us of. After all, your attitude shapes so much about your experience, should it be truly your own?

When we meet women, our attitude tells them almost everything they need to know to make an instantaneous decision. Even of we are not playing at the top of our game, if we are still consumed in a basically positive attitude, she will still sit and be around and listen and engage. But if we are consumed with a defeatist attitude and we are presenting ourselves as victims of the world, she knows immediately that our attitude is going to be chronically negative and that her energy may very well be zapped if she lets that into her life. The way we offer her our ever present attitude has everything to do with whether or not she is willing to talk to us more.

Attitude does not have to be a reflection of your past experiences. Have you ever met someone who has gone through unthinkable horrors and yet still presents themselves with a strong and positive outlook? You sit there in amazement when you find out the abuses they suffered and the tragedy of their story and wonder how they can still believe the world is a positive place. It is all about their attitude. The things that happen in our lives are there to teach us something. We can either learn from them or become victimized by them. But we really can't do both at the same time. When we have experienced a lot of pain and we have learned some pretty hard lessons, we often take the negative lesson out of it.

For instance, if our girlfriend cheated on us and absolutely broke our heart in two we might decide to learn that women can't be trusted and that women are only in it for themselves. Or we can decide to learn that we weren't really meant to be with that particular woman and thankfully we found that out before we popped the big question. Which lesson we choose is determined by our attitude and which lesson we choose helps to determine our attitude. It's a double edged sword like that.

When you develop a negative attitude about women you end up placing a lot of unfair judgments on every single woman you meet based entirely on her gender. It's not that women cheat. It's that some women might cheat. Some men might cheat as well. Not all men and not all women are born cheaters. It happens and you need to move forward, whatever that means to you. When we greet the world as a victim and introduce ourselves to the people in it as their next victim, we have already doomed the relationship and we have already determined the outcome. We can convince ourselves that nobody is really good enough for us because they have to make up for all the past hurts that we have ever experienced. Talk about setting someone up for failure! Since the woman who is sitting in front of you bears absolutely no responsibility for the previous actions of other women, how exactly is she supposed to make up for the behaviors of other women? It just can't happen. Having unrealistic expectations of her creates a scenario where she has no option but to let you down because she isn't even aware of the issues stacked against her.

Self limiting beliefs and beliefs that limit other people often show themselves again and again when you find yourself repeating patterns with other people. It happens to us all the time, but often we only notice the negative ones. When you find that you are dating really attractive women only to find out that you are perpetually jealous and that you are not capable of trusting them, you are dealing with the limiting beliefs about previous behaviors of either you or others in your life. When you expect painful situations to explode, you subconsciously push them to happen. When you find that you are getting angry over perceived behavior or you are giving yourself an entire negative self talk lecture based on a simple error, like occasional tardiness or the inability to express emotions the way you want them expressed, all your doing is creating the situation that will determine the same outcome time and time again.

Your attitude can create positive or negative reactions and outcomes. When we are truly invested in ourselves the actions of other no longer victimize us. Of course, when we know that we are being overly negative without cause, we also have a very difficult time breaking the pattern. Naturally, you can't change a behavior without also changing the attitude you are portraying. When it comes down to the basic ideas and understanding your own behavior, attitude comes from thoughts and thoughts are determined by beliefs. If you are negative self talking yourself into a major depression when your girlfriend is late, the thoughts are obvious. She's sleeping around, I knew I couldn't trust her, and she will never understand me. The belief is a little harder to uncover but it usually runs along the same lines. She is untrustworthy because she isn't here on time. Women are untrustworthy and it is only a matter of time before she breaks my heart.

You are in control of your beliefs, your thoughts, and your attitudes. By being honest about these issues with yourself and really taking each person as an individual and giving each circumstance its own consideration, you are eliminating the idea that patterns are responsible for your unhappiness. The next time you notice that your thoughts are creating a negative environment in your head, try going for a different line of thinking and just maybe you can change the thought pattern. Once you achieve that, you might be able to change the belief. It takes practice, hence the word "might." You can do these things, you just might not do them perfectly on your first try.

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