7 Rules For Winning Back Your Wifes Heart While You Are Apart

Question:



My wife and I recently separated and now I really miss her and want to get her back. Is there anything I can to repair our relationship and get back together?



Answer:



It doesn't matter who the ended the relationship or how it ended, chances are you're looking back now and want to get back together with your wife, but can you really hit the 'reset' button and make things better again between you two? While I can't give you specifics about what will work for you and your situation because everyone's is different, I can tell you about some of the most common things that work and don't work when it comes to winning your wife's heart back.

Below I've outlined 3 things you should not do and 4 things that you absolutely must do if you want to get back together with the love of your life.

Don't:

1. Call or harass your wife. One of the worst things that you can do as a man when it comes to getting your wife back is to constantly call or harass her while your apart. For starters, it makes you look creepy. No woman likes to be stalked and your wife doesn't need to justify her every move to you while you're apart. It's ok to call her every once in a while to check up on her and the kids, but if it gets to the point of obsession, then you've crossed the line. Instead, use this time apart to do something constructive and meaningful with your life. Work on improving yourself and making yourself a more appealing person to your wife so that when you do call to check up on her she's actually excited and wants to talk to you.

2. Don't date lots of women. Dating other women while you're separated will make your wife jealous, but you've got to do it right and for the right reasons or it won't work. The reasons why you want to date other women while your separated from your wife is not to show her what she's missing. The reason it's ok to date other women while your separated from your wife is to improve your self esteem and self confidence so that when you meet up with your wife your a much happier person and not a basket case.

So how many women should you date? I can't answer that question for you as there is no perfect number. What I suggest you do is put yourself in her shoes and think about how many men you'd like to see your wife date while you're apart and use that as a benchmark.

3. Use the kids. Do not under any circumstance use your kids as ammunition against your wife. Leave your kids out of it altogether. I know it can be an easy trap to fall into, but using your kids as leverage against your wife will not win her heart back. Instead it will drive a wedge into your already strained relationship, so try to keep them out of it as best you can and keep things between you and your wife.

DO:

1. Give her plenty of time and space. Don't worry that she's going to rush right out and meet someone else. Just like you, she's probably gone out on a few dates to keep her spirits up, but I doubt she's found someone that she's deeply connected to because it's not easy to move on and get over someone you love, even when you're both hurting.

2. Spend plenty of time doing things that you like to do. This is a good time to make some changes to who you are and work on making yourself a better man. You might not know this, but women find men who have goals and direction in their lives to be very attractive. And it really doesn't matter what it is, so take a class or upgrade your education but do something that shows your wife that you're investing in yourself.

Doing so will give you two benefits: first it will help take your mind off things during your separation, and secondly it will remind your wife of the fun loving, full of life guy she fell in love with in the first place.

3. Spend quality time with your kids. If you didn't spend a lot of time with them before, now is a great time to start.

Have fun with them and enjoy the time you can spend together, it will be good for all of you.

Remember that when your wife said 'yes' when you proposed to her that she chose you over all the other guys to not only be a great husband but a great father.


4. Don't repeat the past. Make a mental note that when you and your wife get back together that you won't repeat the same mistakes that brought you to this point in the first place. Use the time apart to analyze your marriage and the role that you played... and then resolve to make the changes necessary to save your relationship.