6 Steps To Winning Your Boyfriend Back

6 Steps To Winning Your Boyfriend Back

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So you've just broken up with your man. You're stuck at home rereading old emails from your ex while he's back in the saddle. You want him back! What's a girl to do? Here are 6 steps to get you back together again.

1. The most important thing to remember is what NOT to do. Whatever you do, DO NOT pursue him! Men are hunters and they must pursue the woman they love. He must have some interest in you and want to be with you, otherwise you are trying to force a round peg in a square hole. You are chasing a man that doesn't want to be caught, at least not by you! So, play it cool. Do not email, text, call or stalk the guy!

2. Let him have a minimum of 12 weeks to mentally process the situation and wait for him to contact you first. I know it feels like forever. But men need time to think and to miss the woman they love. They need to think about their mistakes. They need time to compare you to other women and see that you were really the better choice. Let him have that time. Remember, chasing him will be the biggest turn off to him during this time. If he has not contacted you after about 12 weeks, move on. Like they say, "he's just not that into you."

3. In the meantime, start dating around. Do not have sex with anyone (more on this later). But you must stimulate his competitive nature. If he contacts you, casually tell him that you are busy dating other people. If he presses for details, don't be specific. He doesn't need to know. His jealousy will motivate him to get YOU back.

4. Once he starts pursuing you again, you must keep him interested. Do not be overly available to him. Do not accept every phone call. Do not reply to every text message. Do not be available for every date. Replying to one out of every three messages is a good rule of thumb. Don't be concerned that this will turn him off. It won't! Trust me. Men need to be the hunter, not the hunted. If a hunter's prey lies down at his feet, the chase is over and he will no longer be interested.

5. Once you have taken back the upper hand, don't be blinded by love this time around. Look at him more objectively. Would he be a good husband and father? Make him court you. Let him show you that he is able to take care of you financially. And make sure it is not artificial. If he drives an expensive car but lives in a cheap rental, he may not be very responsible with his money. If he already has children, does he take care of those financial obligations and is he involved in the children's lives? Look at his character, his integrity, his morals. These are the core of who he is. Ask yourself what kind of man you want for a husband. Does he have those character traits and values? If not, end the relationship before you get in deeper.

6. If you want to get married, it is vitally important that you do not have sex with him until your wedding night. What?! Why wait so long? Because men will do the minimum required to get get you to sleep with them. If it takes only words, they will use words. If it takes only a ring and some words, then you've been bought. But if you require him to walk down the aisle in front of God, family and friends, promise to love, honor and keep you until death do you part, then (if he loves you) he will do it. Don't accept anything less. You have all the power in the relationship, use it wisely.

There are plenty of great books that can help you get inside the brain of a man and improve your relationships. I review many of the best and the worst of relationship and dating self-help books at my website.

About the Author:
Sheryl Holt
No-nonsense relationship advice and self-help book reviews
www.getacommitment.com



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