5 Traits For Men To Develop To Attract Women

This may not be the average "how to get a woman" article. The qualities you're going to need to develop to have a relationship with a woman are not surface things. You don't need to work on making more money, losing weight, gaining muscle, or finding the right words to say. You need to work on becoming the kind of person a woman could love. Books and articles on how to change your superficial life to attract a woman are popular because those things are easy to implement. Changing who you are forces you to look inward and make changes that are often scary. It also puts the responsibility for attracting a woman on your shoulders, something that can sit uncomfortably. The rewards of developing inner resources to attract a woman are rich, however. Not only will you finally attract the woman of your dreams, you will have a deep and satisfying life to share with her, as well. Here are the qualities you need to cultivate to attract the woman you've always wanted:

1. Humor
Women really do like men with a sense of humor. Men may be confused by this and assume we like men who have a lot of jokes. A good sense of humor does include being able to make the moment funny, but it also means a man doesn't take life or himself too seriously. If you have a good sense of humor, you'll be able to look at your life honestly but not critically. If a woman sees you are not critical of yourself, she'll be put at ease by the belief that you won't be overly critical of her, either. It is also refreshing to be around someone who can look at the positive side of life instead of dwelling on the negative. A sense of humor helps a man navigate the negative aspects of himself and life and come out on top, with some levity to spare.

2. Compassion
A woman wants to know you are capable of understanding her. If you show you are capable of feeling genuine emotion for someone else's problems, it shows her you have what it takes to be an active romantic partner. It also shows her you aren't stuck so far inside your own insular shell that you can't interact in a meaningful way with other people. And, like a sense of humor shows her you aren't judging yourself too seriously, compassion shows you aren't going to judge her too harshly, either. Show compassion naturally as it arises, but don't go out of your way to contrive it. That would be dishonest, and women can spot a faker from twenty paces. If she decides to open up to you, try and put yourself in her shoes. Be an active listener. Show kindness and temperance to those around you. It will open her heart to you.

3. Honesty
Women require that men tell the truth about themselves and about their lives. This means not bending the truth or making excuses, but it also means revealing more about yourself than you may be expecting. Women want personal honesty from men. We want to know you know yourself well enough to know what you want. This kind of personal honesty includes admitting when you are wrong, not covering up your faults, and revealing parts of your past to us when it is appropriate. Don't vomit every fault you've ever had on us at once. That is too overwhelming. But when something uncomfortable comes up and the woman you're with has proven she has the compassion to deal with it, revealing truths about yourself will increase the intimacy in a relationship.

4. Integrity
This quality will get you farther than any other. If your values are always the same, no matter who is watching or who you're trying to impress, she's going to know you're a man worth keeping. A man with the integrity to uphold his values at all times is a man worth knowing, no matter who you are. Having integrity requires self-knowledge. When you demonstrate integrity, a woman will know you have put thought into the kind of person you want to be. It also requires bravery. Even if a woman doesn't share your value, if she's worthy of you, she'll be impressed that you had the courage to stand up for what you believe in.

5. Respect
This quality also includes a bit of give-and-take. A woman knows you respect her when you are not willing to ask of her anything you wouldn't be willing to do yourself. This comes into play in all aspects of the relationship, from the superficial to the sexual. If you have a strong respect for your partner and she returns it, there is every chance you will be a strong couple for a long time to come.

These values are not necessarily going to snag you a woman to fill your bed for tonight (although being a man of integrity, honesty, kindness, and humor is dead sexy), but they're going to make you a man worth knowing. If you concentrate enough on these qualities, a sixth quality will emerge: you'll genuinely begin to like yourself for who you are. When you've got all that, no woman will be able to resist you.