I so often hear women saying 'What do men really want?' For so many years you may have tried everything to get it right, to please the man your dating in the hope he'll fall in love with you and want to commit to you for good.
Has that worked so far?
Have your constant efforts to please him by buying him gifts, cooking for him, wearing the clothes you think he'll love or whatever else you try to do, have they had the desired effect?
Well, my guess is that if you're reading this they haven't so I want to offer up some of my best dating tips in the hope that you can avoid some of the mistakes I used to make (unconsciously) that would have men pulling away as soon as things started to get serious.
Dating Tip No. 1 *
Show him you're a woman who values herself. Men are looking for someone of integrity, a woman they can trust and have faith in. If you know the next man you meet is unavailable, don't go there. Show him your standards are higher than that. Many women are not trustworthy and will cheat on their partners in the same way as men do, but ultimately this is not what a man or you are looking for in a long term partner so at every stage of getting to know each other, show him you're a woman worth getting to know.
Dating Tip No. 2 *
Yep, we all know men are visual and they like a woman who takes care of herself so take every effort to go out there looking and feeling your best as this will show him you take pride in the way you look and value yourself. Remember though, most men are not looking for a catwalk model, simply someone they can be proud to have on their arm and introduce to their friends.
Dating Tip No. 3 *
Men love a woman who is caring and has the qualities of a great mother or homemaker. This may sound old fashioned but it's there instinctively in most men. They want to love and be loved by a woman who's warm and affectionate, someone who is willing to share her life and make a home together so forget the cold hard 'I can take care of myself and don't need a man in my life' lines. Embrace your femininity and softer side but NEVER fall into 'mothering' mode, this is a sure fire turn off to any guy.
Dating Tip No. 4 *
Never criticize your man. He'll get enough competition and criticism at work and he's looking for support and love from his woman. It doesn't mean you can't challenge him, in fact I'd actively encourage a good healthy challenge to keep things alive, but remember a man wants to please his woman above all else and any words of criticism will have the effect of pushing him away, If you want a man to do more of something for you, encourage him with your appreciation of all the great things he does for you.
Dating Tip No. 5 *
Don't rush ahead in a relationship. All too often as women we're running down the aisle before we've even had the 3rd date so relax and go with the pace he sets. Let the man lead and come to you in his own good time. The right one will know you're there so be centered in who you are take each day at a time, after all if you're going to spend the next 50 years with this guy, rushing the first few weeks makes no sense at all.
You may agree or disagree with some of these points but what is true is that men are increasingly struggling to find their place in the world and especially when it comes to women. Many women can give off a huge amount of mixed messages. For example; we want our man to be strong and masculine but soft and caring. We love the power of a great job and money but we want him to value home time over work. Whether they are the primary bread winner or not they do need the respect of their woman and to know they're pleasing her. Just like you, he wants to have fun and to find someone to share his life with in a secure and loving way, so don't be afraid to open your heart, there are no guarantees after all. To learn more about what men really want in a woman get your copy of my book 'The Secrets To Attracting And Keeping An Amazing Man' right here
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