10 Basics To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back After A Breakup

Every girl wants a guy who can understand and connect with her. There are rules for pursuing a girl after a break up. I'll try to explain them in this article about how to deal with your ex girlfriend after a breakup.

Get her back using these 10 techniques:

1.)Do not be afraid to phone her. If you ever call her, try to keep control of the conversation by remaining vuage and mysterious. Let her know that you've been thinking about her but that you're also actively living your life. If she thinks that you're over her she'll be a little more willing to get in touch with you and keep the lines of communication open.

Also when you talk to her, don't do it five times a day. Keep it to once or twice a week maximum. If you call her too much too often she'll think you're desperate and needy and that's not a quality that a woman wants. Instead, keep your phone calls short and sweet. The less you say about yourself and what you've been doing the better.

2.)Contact her via email. It's ok to send her an email, especially if the breakup wasn't amicable. It could be that you don't want to hear her voice right now and that's ok, I understand, and so the next best thing is to send an email. The advantage to doing this over a text message or a Facebook wall post is that an email gives you the writing space you need to pour your heart out if you need to. So take advantage of technology and send her a quick note letter her know what you've been up to.

3.)It's totally fine to date other women after the breakup because chances are she'll be doing the same thing as well. But I want to caution you here, don't take dating other too seriously at this point. Dating others and getting out and having a good time will do you good after the breakup by keeping your mind off her and raising your spirits if you're depressed. So get out there and get a life and keep an open mind.

4.)Remember her birthday. Use her birthday as an excuse to get in touch with her again. Maximize your time and effort by sending her a personalized gift that you've put lots of thought into. It doesn't need to be expensive, but it should come from the heart.

Everyone likes to be remembered on their birthday. So treat her like a princess today.

5.)Analyze her. Do you know what she wants in a man? She wants a man who wants her for who she is, so pay attention to what she says and does when she talks. If you didn't pay attention to her before when you were dating, do it now. You need to understand your ex now more than ever before.

6.)Don't get jealous. One of the biggest turnoff's for women is jealous men. You've broken up and so you don't have any claim to her, what she does or who she sees. So if you find yourself getting jealous, do something to get rid of those feelings. Take up a hobby or spend time with friends, just do something so you're not obsessing over her right now. Remember she's your ex now. And if you're serious about getting back with your ex girlfriend then this is something you seriously need to try and avoid.

7.)How does she talk about you when she's with other people? Does your ex girlfriend talk nicely about you when she's discussing your relationship with others? Did you give her any reason not to? I know neither of you were perfect in the relationship, but this is a great indication as to how she really feels about you as a person. Try and find out what she's saying about you and take it as constructive criticism. Just imagine how much better you'll be if you can take some of your weaknesses and turn them into strengths.

8.)Stop with the mind games. It's easy to fall into the trap of playing mind games with your ex girlfriend after you've broken up. But I'm here to tell you that this won't do you any good if you want her back. Is it going to do you any good to hurt the person you supposedly love when you want to get back together? My advice to you is to stay away from playing any and all mind games during your breakup. If she's playing them with you, ignore them and focus on what's really important - her.

9.)Try not to give up control or power during the breakup. If you ex girlfriend happens to be chasing you after the breakup, keep your cards close to your vest and don't reveal your position. Relationships are difficult and complex at the best of times. And when you're together, you want to keep the communication open between you two, but when you're apart you need to try and appear mysterious and more complex. When you're trying to get your girlfriend back, don't ever tell her you love her unless you're absolutely certain she loves you back, because if you tell her but she doesn't feel the same way about you yet, then you've played your best card and that's something you can't get back.

10.)Make yourself attractive to her. Do you best to stay in shape or get back in shape if need be. Even though women aren't as drawn to the physical aspect as men are, it's still an important thing that shouldn't be overlooked. Every woman wants to be with a man who looks good and takes care of themselves and this applies to you, especially when you're trying to win her heart back. Also you should look at diversifying your interests to become more intellectually appealing to her as well. Not only do women want someone who takes care of themselves physically but they also want someone whose got some brains.
In short, become the boyfriend she wants. You've already got a history together which gives you an advantage over all the other guys out there. And if you're a more physically and mentally attractive person this time around, don't you think that will improve your chances to get your ex girlfriend back?