How To Overcome Commitment Issues In Men

Many women have problems with commitment issues -- in men. Women are often eager to tie the knot, but their men haven't proposed, and it's been a long time. What does it mean? Why is he reluctant to commit? Is it a case of commitment phobia?

It helps to understand that if a man takes commitment seriously, it is rational for him to be apprehensive. You are asking him to become responsible for your and your children's well being for the rest of his life, and to sacrifice his dreams and his happiness if necessary to do so. Every good man has some commitment issues. Some prudence is to be expected.

Here are some signs that will help you identify if your man has more than normal commitment issues:

* He never talks about marriage.

* Talking about marriage makes him uncomfortable. He keeps trying to change the subject.

* He broke up with his ex's, not them with him.

* He limits the time he spends with you.

* He never talks about his family with you.

* He hasn't introduced you to his family, and he doesn't talk about doing so.

* He has sudden mood swings from romantic to cold or argumentative.

If you see all or some of these signs then you better prepare yourself in dealing with commitment issues in your man.

When trapped with a commitment averse boyfriend, you have no other choice but to deal with it. If you are the type of person who does not want to wait longer or if you are afraid to get hurt later on, you may decide to end your relationship and move on with your life. But if you are really that much in love with him that you want to take the risk of being with him, the good news is that you can help him get rid of his reluctance to commit. This will be a big challenge for you.

A man with commitment issues is still capable of falling in love. He is just afraid of commitment. You can use his love for you to change his perception about being committed.

How? I'll tell you how it was with me. I was ideologically opposed to marriage. I believed that the individual should be supreme, and that marriage would suppress individuality, and hence marriage was wrong. One woman didn't give up on me, and I got married to her when I realized that I already was married in every way but by legal contract, and that it suited me.

You set the pace of your relationship because if he is the one to set the pace, he will still continue his "commitment avoidance" behavior. You know that he loves you, but do not push him to talk about tying the knot because you will just make him stay away. You have to be patient while working on it.

After creating that intimate connection between the two of you, try to be away from him for a few days or weeks. Change your availability. Do not always be available whenever he calls to see you. Make him miss you. Get busy with other things and spend more time with your friends than with him. Make him feel as if he is losing you. This will make him realize that he cannot live without you and eventually he will initiate tying you in marriage.

In summary, dealing with commitment issues in men involves time, effort and determination combined with true love. He will be able to overcome his commitment issues when he realizes he is emotionally committed and it has made his life better.