As we approach the holidays, some of you may have a tingle of excitement as you anticipate the hustle and bustle of the season, looking forward to seeing family and friends to celebrate. For many however, this can be a very challenging time. Anxiety, dread and worry, are more the norm for so many.
The overinflated emphasis on gifts becomes a chore and takes away from the pleasure of the connection, love, and appreciation for many people. For some, there are so many things to do in addition to the already overloaded responsibilities. And for many more, the stress of facing another holiday alone feels unbearable.
Doesn't sound too Happy or Merry, does it? Yet I know from experience having been on both ends of the spectrum that you can create holiday bliss while honoring what you want and need during this time. You don't have to straddle the tight rope between sacrifice, obligation, and strain and total seclusion or intense loneliness.
I have one client who has spent almost every year of her life at family gatherings that left her lifeless because she absolutely did not want to attend. She felt so out of place and hated being the only single adult no husbands or children. Yet she went year after year traveling to be there because it meant so much to her mother.
I have a friend who compared having to choose Christmases between her mother or with her mother-in-law preferable to choosing between having a knife in the eye, or an ax to her head.
Another client cried at the thought of his first Christmas morning in 30 years without waking up to the chaos of his children and grandchildren as a result of his recent divorce. Another young woman is devastated at thinking about having to deposit her two children off with their dad at noon for the second year. Last year she just went home and sat in her dark house after leaving them.
Okay, you get the picture and some of you may have no idea of what I am talking about while others will relate too much.
So what is one to do when faced with options that are so unappealing and seem like you have no choice?
First all of understand that you DO have a choice. So you may not necessarily love the situation and feel like you don't have a choice in it, you do have a choice in how you view it, how you react to it, how you think about it. This one fact alone offers you such freedom.
That's just one of the secrets and how to make it work for you that I share in this FREE audio.
I sure hope it will help you enjoy a happy holiday regardless of your relationship status!!
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